Adoption awareness month.
I’ve hesitated posting anything this month. I’ve struggled back & forth. I’ve watched some of the posts filling my feed simply saying “yay celebrate adoption” with a cute pic of their kid attached. I’ve watched the posts filled with frustration over a month that seems to glorify something that is only a need due to loss and grief. I always want to be sensitive. I want to see both perspectives. I want to always give my son room to grieve. I grieve with him. I hate the need for adoption. But, I also get to daily see the gift of family. I get to see redemption play out before my eyes. I get to see joy amidst the pain and grief. As I responded to a sweet mama who wrote me this morning asking how I balance being super excited to be in the adoption process, to be excited to see their child’s face, but feeling guilty because it means such loss for that child...that same struggle arose in my heart. But that’s the beauty. It’s the beauty in the midst of grief that there is a mama fighting for a child who has faced such loss. It’s the beauty of seeing something the enemy meant to destroy...God came to redeem. It’s the beauty of seeing a child be allowed to fight & grieve in a safe space. This is adoption. It’s messy. It’s hard. It’s heartbreaking. But it’s a beautiful opportunity to be a part of redemption. Be a part of allowing healing & hope in an impossibly hard story. This is adoption. It’s wrecked our lives & opened our eyes to new perspectives. It’s humbled us & forced me to step aside & know that he’ll never be fully mine, because he will always be partly hers. It’s humbling as you have to learn & be opened to handling being a safe place for your child fight you in order to process. But, it’s the most important journey we’ve ever walked & it is worth it. It’s worth stepping up because reunification isn’t always an option. Yes we can take steps to support community, we can make programs to change cultures to see the value in women & children. But Adoption is sometimes the only option & if we don’t step up to open our homes to be that space...the problem doesn’t go away. Talk to me about adoption.